7 NATURAL HAIR RULES THAT I BROKE (and probably still do.. sshhhh)

If you’re a member of the natural hair community, you know that natural hair gurus can be EVIL! There’s all these rules on what you should and shouldn’t do to your hair and it can be stressful af if you’re just starting your natural hair journey. The good thing is, everyone’s hair is different and its best to do what works for you.

Here’s 5 natural hair rules that I broke (and continue to break) to this day. Don’t yell it out to the world though, I don’t want any fro sistas coming for me lol!

1. I DON’T USE COCONUT OIL.

Word on the street was coconut oil was the shiiitttt, so I’m like shit, I wana be the shitttttt so let me try it. I ended up looking like a piece of shit after using it because it did absolutely nothing to my hair. NAY-THING. I actually tried a bunch of different oils, but the only thing that truly moisturizes my scalp is a good ole jar of blue magic (yes, the grease your mama would pull out back in the day to get you school picture ready). Get chu someee.

2. I DON’T DRY MY HAIR WITH NOTHING FANCY.

On wash day, I use a regular towel. It actually may even be 100% cotton. Sue me.

3. I DON’T FINGER DETANGLE.

Kudos to people that can do this, but my hair is entirely too thick and crazy, it would just look back at me like “biiitch please.” I use a denman brush to detangle, and I love it! Works like a charm.

4. I DON’T HAVE A WASH DAY “RITUAL.”

Girls on Youtube be doing the absolute most with their “wash day routines.” It doesn’t take me hours to wash my hair. I hop in the shower, wash and condition, wash my body, get out, apply my leave-in, put it in twists or a puff and go about my day. That simple lol. I don’t wash my hair in “sections” either. Fawk. Dat.

5. I DON’T CONSISTENTLY CLIP MY ENDS.

Look. While transitioning and even now as a full natural, I’ve seen a professional natural hair stylist MAYBE twice and that’s when I decided to let them trim my ends. If I see something looking dead and ratchet af on my own I’ll cut it, but I could have dead ass ends and not even know it lol.

6. I EAT LIKE SHIT.

Fried chicken (and chicken in general) is like 95% of my diet, no lie. The other 5% of that is complete bullsh*t. Would my hair be longer if I ate healthier? Maybe, maybe not.. but I may never know.

7. I DON’T OWN A SATIN PILLOWCASE.

I have a bonnet, but I don’t always sleep with it on. I sleep like a grown ass man, so I have to choose my battles. Sleeping “cute” is rarely ever an option for me.

But like I mentioned before, do what works best for YOUR hair. That’s the beauty in black women, we’re not all built the same and our beauty takes on many forms. 🙂

Comment below with any natural hair rules that you broke!

Xoxo, ~ NaturallyLisee

So, why go natural?

You know what. I ask myself this all the time. You’d think I’d have a definite answer if I created an entire blog dedicated to this stuff – right?!

You know what. I ask myself this all the time. You’d think I’d have a definite answer if I created an entire blog dedicated to this stuff – right?!

I can’t lie. I started off hating naturals. “Natural vs. Relaxed” was the modern day “East vs. West” coast beef during the Tupac era to me. I hated the attacks on grouping women as “better” or “worse” because of how they chose to wear their hair. And let me tell you, I used to be a RELAXED ADVOCATE! No one was going to get me to stray away from my creamy crack – no matter how many times you told me my hair was unhealthy.

But enough of the rambling. I believe my natural hair journey first began with my discovery of wigs. Wigs, huh? Girl, yaasssss wigs! I LOVE EM. I was in my first senior year of college (5th year right here, where y’all at, heyyyy), and one of my best friends introduced them to me after I got tired of flat ironing my relaxed hair every day. I mean, when you’re in college you don’t have time for all that. I’m trying to get up and goooo. And I’m also poor, so I can’t afford protective styling such as braids, sew-ins, etc. After hours of my friend reassuring me I wasn’t going to look like a granny, and my wig wouldn’t fall off during pivotal moments (LOL), I bought my first $20 wig and I was on my way hunty!

After purchasing my first wig, I got addicted and quick and kept buying more and more.

SN: If ya’ll want more info specifically pertaining to my wig interests, let me know, but I’m trying to stay on track, sooo….

It got to a point where I would forget to relax my damn hair because I always would have a wig on. Mind you, I had a pixie cut when I first began my natural hair journey so perms were almost inevitable. So my hair finally grew out to I want to say shoulder length and I was happy as f*ck. I’d had a pixie cut for 2-3 years at that point and I wanted my damn hair back.

A few months after that (May 2015), my best friend graduated college and moved away (tear) and she was the person that would slay my relaxers, so I was left looking dumbfounded as hell, because I’m like I don’t trust anyone to put a perm in my head. NOPE! I like having my edges. So, I kept wearing wigs. It was easy and convenient. I got my last perm in late 2015 and transitioned – meaning grew out my perm, until March 2017. In March 2017, I couldn’t take looking ratchet anymore and I was eager to be 100% natural so I chopped off the rest of my relaxed ends. As of June 2017, I colored my hair to a honey blonde.

So, to summarize all of that, I decided to go natural because I was a lazy broke ass college student who didn’t have the time, energy or money to continue to perm my hair so I didn’t. Now, don’t get me wrong, being natural is like 1000x MORE work, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I LOVE how my natural hair looks now, and I actually may fight my “friends” because they couldn’t possibly be my real friends for not telling me how ratchet I looked with relaxed hair. Looking that dusty, I could have started this journey forever ago.

*Inserts pics*

See ya’ll!!! They hated me!!!!

But anyways – this blog will take you through the good, the bad and the ugly (see you’re already getting a glimpse). I’m not a head ass “naturalista” by any means, but people ask me hair questions all the time so I said, “why don’t I just make a blog?” So here it is! Enjoy! Xoxo ~ NaturallyLisee